GAY SEX!!

and now that I have your attention let me talk to you about gay sex.

I've gotten a few questions from young gay ladies about "OMG IT'S THE FIRST TIME WHAT DO I DO!?!?!" and the simple answer is whatever you feel comfortable with, there are no rules, and I'm sorry there is NO instruction manual (I looked trust me).

The first time I had sex with a woman was fucking petrifying, I wasn't really ready for it and in hindsight wish I'd have waited but I was very much in love and we were in Dublin and it was romantic, and she was American, and going home and and and....sigh. The following may be tmi but basically I erm "Dined downstairs" had no idea what I was doing and basically tried my best based on stuff I'd read in "The Joy of Lesbian Sex", the L word and the moans emitting from the headboard of the bunk bed.

However the first time I let a woman touch me at all she tried to fist me, the girl after that wouldn't even go near my vagina annnnd then things got slightly better. My life is one sexual disaster after another it seems but the key is to take it too seriously.

Don't panic, assuming you're with someone you trust there won't be a 5 inch thick dildo and a bunch of straps and wires to cope with. Let them know it's your first time and that you need to take it slow, if it's both your first times relax with each other and just start with kissing and not to sound like a total hippy sex counselor explore each other. It's going to be awkward, there's no way to avoid it, the first time you have sex with anyone it's going to be awkward, but it can be beautifully so. And don't feel just because you've started you have to finish the first time you're naked with whoever you're with take it at your own pace.

To give you some frank and honest advice the best thing (in my opinion) to do is just touch her, caress her all over and slowly work your way to her lady parts. This won't only give you some time to chillax it can be very arousing just being together and feeling each others touch can be one of the most pleasant things about sex in general not just lesbian sex, but I think it's one of the perks of lesbianism is the way a woman touches you is very different to the way a man touches you. Don't just go shoving as many fingers inside of her and jam away like they do in those pathetic porno, start slowly with one or two running around her pussy, don't neglect her clit either and just listen to what she wants. Communication is the absolute key because some people prefer being penetrated some people prefer just straight up clit stimulation don't be afraid to ask her. The one piece of advice I would give for penetration is the "come hither" finger movement and not so much in and out but more caressing her inside, and to quote the great Alice Pieszecki "circles, circles are good"

When it comes to "taking the plunge" so to speak I'd again say take your time and USE YOUR WHOLE TOUNGE if it's not for you don't think that doesn't make you not gay, there's more to sex than just oral.

The best advice I can give is communication, I'd recommend this for all sex but especially your first time. For the most part girls won't expect you go down on them the first time you sleep with them because it can be a little intense and don't be afraid to say "I'm not ready for that yet" . Also don't be afraid to ask her if what you're doing feels good a simple "is that ok?" will suffice and incidentally it's very fucking sexy to know the person you're sleeping with cares enough to ask.

All in all losing your gay virginity is no less or no more complicated than the first time you have straight sex, the key is to be relaxed, ready and communicate.

Have fun and play safe guys

Cherry cherry boom boom

Em
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The BiSEXual question

Ladies!

It is 2011!

I am back!

I am a whore!

I am blogging once more!

well TRYING to blog...

Ok so I was here wrecking my brain to trying to decide what my first official blog of 2011 should be, should it be sexy, funny, tragic, or boring?

Well I've chosen a topic close to my heart....well my vagina really SEX but more specifically sex with bisexual girls.

Now I have made a fair few lesbian friends the past year or so and most of them are uniform in their agreement that "Bi sexual girls aren't as good in bed as lesbians"

WTF?

I'm not one of these lesbians who excludes bisexuals from their dating pool for fear of getting boy cooties all over me. I've pretty much always had the view that if a girl regardless of how she labels herself is interested in me that makes her "Emuh-Sexual" and that is absolutely fine with me. Bi-sexual girls are just as eager to have sex in my experience than lesbians, in fact some have deffffffffffffffinatly out lady lusted the lesbians I've been with.

For example I semi-dated a girl in uni for a couple of weeks, she was the stereotypes of all stereotypes EXCEPT in the bedroom, she point blank refused to go anywhere near my lady bits with anything but a timid finger for 20 seconds and I'm pretty sure the very word "vagina" scared her beyond belief. It was without a doubt THE worst sex I've ever had with anyone and all this from a gold star lesbian who claimed to never fail to make a girl cum....except for me obviously sigh :s

Now in my time I've had the good fortune to sleep with a very bi-sexual girl, who on the surface was very femme, you know the type who would look at you're naked body and exclaim "OMG YOU HAVE BEWBS!" well blow m if she wasn't as hungry for lady bits as I am! Not only that she was a down right expert with no fear of trying things not just giving that area a bit of a poke with a spoon (don't ask). It was by far the best sex I've ever had with anyone EVER and all this from a girl my friends would describe as undesirable and avoid simply because she was bi and would "have no idea what she was doing"....LESBIANS WTF!?

What I'm trying to say ladies is that ANYONE can be good or bad at doing the sexual thing regardless of how they identify, don't assume that a lesbian will be amazing in bed and that a bisexual won't go down on you. I'm just fed up with the closed mindedness of a community that has to deal with a similar thing every day. So ladies don't go limiting yourself by being bi-hating....they're called bi-SEXUAL for a reason.

Cherry cherry boom boom

Em
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