http://iwanttheworldtoknow.org/
Hey guys please check out this awesome website it's a project to help young LGBT people cope with all the issues facing them.
It's really a great project and I was lucky enough to be chossen to share my story
Thanks everyone
Em
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Showing posts with label comming out. Show all posts
Showing posts with label comming out. Show all posts
Thursday, 17 December 2009
Tuesday, 10 March 2009
Being Gay and single....
Can you spot the theme this week?
Well this isn't a whine about being single....this is more....a quick ramble about how being Gay and single disrupts your life....
To avoid long winded complaining and soul searching I'm going to try and do this in list form....
1-Comming out and STAYING out: Yerp it's tough for anyone to come out but once you're OUT it's very tough to get people to take you seriously if you haven't got a partner. It's the old:
"Oh this is a phase...you're not REALLLLLLY gay because you're not actually dating anyone....so you're not doing it, you're not gay"
o.O
When a straight person is single (or the most part) people don't question their "straight-ness"....no ones going up to Bridget Jones and saying "Yo Bridget maybe you like minge!" because she's a single girl....do you see what I mean?
Parents re really bad at this "single=not really gay" thing...it gives them a slightly weird hope that you can't get rid off not matter what you say, you could wear rainbow pjs in a gaypride parade waving a flag that says "I <3 Vaginas" and they will still try and set you up with George form next door....
It is really tough to keep telling people "I AM ACTUALLY GAY AS THE DAY IS LONG!!!" but keep it up because you don't come out once you come out at least twice a month....it is true
2-Self doubt aka "am I really Gay?" syndrome- There is such a thing belive me it exists, I've had it, and know others who have so DO NOT PANIC! You can be the most out, proud lesbian ever but if you're single in the world, you'll still have those lonely moments where you think:
"Am I really? or is this just a phase/cry for attention/brain related problem"
Do not panic....when you aren't having any fun times you over-think EVERYTHING and start processing the littlest thing like when you watch Doctor Who and start developing impossible sexual feelings towards David Tennant....*looks around* cough.....but it's OK that doesn't make you straight....
3-All you're friends are in reletionships: This pretty self explanatory....yerp....
4-You don't seem to fit in at events: Really sucks going places alone....so either grit your teeth and go it alone or bribe your friend to go...it really isn't nice to go alone anywhere but occasionally it's a good idea because it's important to do things you like for yourself...also you just meet someone doing the thing you like...occasionally....so I'm told...
So that's it the bad times involved when your Gay and single....
Cherry Cherry Boom Boom
Em
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Well this isn't a whine about being single....this is more....a quick ramble about how being Gay and single disrupts your life....
To avoid long winded complaining and soul searching I'm going to try and do this in list form....
1-Comming out and STAYING out: Yerp it's tough for anyone to come out but once you're OUT it's very tough to get people to take you seriously if you haven't got a partner. It's the old:
"Oh this is a phase...you're not REALLLLLLY gay because you're not actually dating anyone....so you're not doing it, you're not gay"
o.O
When a straight person is single (or the most part) people don't question their "straight-ness"....no ones going up to Bridget Jones and saying "Yo Bridget maybe you like minge!" because she's a single girl....do you see what I mean?
Parents re really bad at this "single=not really gay" thing...it gives them a slightly weird hope that you can't get rid off not matter what you say, you could wear rainbow pjs in a gaypride parade waving a flag that says "I <3 Vaginas" and they will still try and set you up with George form next door....
It is really tough to keep telling people "I AM ACTUALLY GAY AS THE DAY IS LONG!!!" but keep it up because you don't come out once you come out at least twice a month....it is true
2-Self doubt aka "am I really Gay?" syndrome- There is such a thing belive me it exists, I've had it, and know others who have so DO NOT PANIC! You can be the most out, proud lesbian ever but if you're single in the world, you'll still have those lonely moments where you think:
"Am I really? or is this just a phase/cry for attention/brain related problem"
Do not panic....when you aren't having any fun times you over-think EVERYTHING and start processing the littlest thing like when you watch Doctor Who and start developing impossible sexual feelings towards David Tennant....*looks around* cough.....but it's OK that doesn't make you straight....
3-All you're friends are in reletionships: This pretty self explanatory....yerp....
4-You don't seem to fit in at events: Really sucks going places alone....so either grit your teeth and go it alone or bribe your friend to go...it really isn't nice to go alone anywhere but occasionally it's a good idea because it's important to do things you like for yourself...also you just meet someone doing the thing you like...occasionally....so I'm told...
So that's it the bad times involved when your Gay and single....
Cherry Cherry Boom Boom
Em
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Thursday, 8 January 2009
The long overdue holiday post...
HEY GAYS!!
How were your holidays?
Mine were epic!
I've had possibly the best christmas of my adult life....it was unexpectidly amazing...
For all you who didn't know I've had a crappy couple of months
Since comming back from the summer I've had nothing but drama, with my room-mates, having no money, and the whole comming out by accident..
So after all this stress I didn't even want to go home for christmas figuring it'd be fighting and horribleness.
When I got to the airport after an annoying bus journey I went to get cash cos I had a fiver left...I went to the machine and...my back loan payment haf come in I was so super happy becuase I could get my family some gifts meaning that may minimize the drama slightly. I got to Belfast with little fuss (cept that wanker security man) and my brother picked me up. Now I'd have a MASSIVE row on the phone with him, he doesn't understand why I don't do the normal thing of going to Greece for a week and getting pissed. He had a big go at me about my trip to the states and it was awful. But he picked me up and gave me a hug and drove me home. We had a chat about it all and cleared the air...then he said something very suprising:
Jeremy: "Ems Mum says you're gay"
Emma:fidgets
Jeremy: notices "Look it doesn't matter to me Ems I still love you you're my little sister"
Emma: smiles
Jeremy:smiles
Football on radio is loud
So that was nice....
I got in and after an hour or so of chatting nonsense and hugging me dog my mum asked me "the Question"
Mum: Look are you gay?
Me:Why does it matter?
Mum: I just need to know
Me: I am...
Mum: processes
Me: But you knew that...
Mum: Pretty much...but now I know....make me a cup of tea will you?
So after all that worrying about my family freaking out they have completly excpeted with no questions and haven't treated me any diffrent.
It made me so relaxed I didn't have this secret anymore it was great. There was only one tiny bit of tension about it all on Christmas day...my mum said she wanted to see Broke Back Mounatin...I told her it was about gay cowboys...her response was "Well I've got a gay daughter so what does it matter?" in a nasty voice...my brother who never stands up for me looked at her and stopped laughing "What the hell has ems got to do with it?" my mum looked at him then nodded "you''re right Jeremey that was childish...I'm sorry Emma Louise I didn't mean it" I was in shock.
rocked my socks...new years was more standered
Since comming back from the summer I've had nothing but drama, with my room-mates, having no money, and the whole comming out by accident..
So after all this stress I didn't even want to go home for christmas figuring it'd be fighting and horribleness.
When I got to the airport after an annoying bus journey I went to get cash cos I had a fiver left...I went to the machine and...my back loan payment haf come in I was so super happy becuase I could get my family some gifts meaning that may minimize the drama slightly. I got to Belfast with little fuss (cept that wanker security man) and my brother picked me up. Now I'd have a MASSIVE row on the phone with him, he doesn't understand why I don't do the normal thing of going to Greece for a week and getting pissed. He had a big go at me about my trip to the states and it was awful. But he picked me up and gave me a hug and drove me home. We had a chat about it all and cleared the air...then he said something very suprising:
Jeremy: "Ems Mum says you're gay"
Emma:fidgets
Jeremy: notices "Look it doesn't matter to me Ems I still love you you're my little sister"
Emma: smiles
Jeremy:smiles
Football on radio is loud
So that was nice....
I got in and after an hour or so of chatting nonsense and hugging me dog my mum asked me "the Question"
Mum: Look are you gay?
Me:Why does it matter?
Mum: I just need to know
Me: I am...
Mum: processes
Me: But you knew that...
Mum: Pretty much...but now I know....make me a cup of tea will you?
So after all that worrying about my family freaking out they have completly excpeted with no questions and haven't treated me any diffrent.
It made me so relaxed I didn't have this secret anymore it was great. There was only one tiny bit of tension about it all on Christmas day...my mum said she wanted to see Broke Back Mounatin...I told her it was about gay cowboys...her response was "Well I've got a gay daughter so what does it matter?" in a nasty voice...my brother who never stands up for me looked at her and stopped laughing "What the hell has ems got to do with it?" my mum looked at him then nodded "you''re right Jeremey that was childish...I'm sorry Emma Louise I didn't mean it" I was in shock.
rocked my socks...new years was more standered
I am the worst person for New Year I don't like going out and I don't know anyone to go with so I usally end up alone drinking white wine and crying about my life in the dark. But this year was diffrent...don't get me wrong I was alone, and I was drinking but I was dancing around the living room drunk as you like having the best time. I'd gotton a ton of texts from friends and had been called by Rachel at least 3 times so was all merry. See my mum was minding Ryan at my brothers so I had the house to myself....how was I at Midnight? I was standing outside with a beer watching fireworks in my PJs...pimp
The rest of the night I watched "The 50 greatest love scenes" and dancing to Katy Perry s'all good doods.
That's about it....borring but weird :D
The rest of the night I watched "The 50 greatest love scenes" and dancing to Katy Perry s'all good doods.
That's about it....borring but weird :D
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Thursday, 4 December 2008
How not to come out
Seriously this is how you don't come out to your parents...
Emuh: Yeah I'm not sure when I'm comming home...
Mother dearest: Were's your bible?
E: Why?
MD: Well I want you to come to church with me on Christmas day..
E: Mum you KNOW I don't do the church thing...I'm just not into it...
MD: Well I think you're being stupid...you were always a relgious girl...this is all just pathetic!
E: MOTHER I AM NOT GONNA CHANGE MY VEIWS ON GOD!
MD: WHY NOT!
E: BECAUSE I'M GAY!!!! *slams down phone*
E: Oh jesus...oh God...Oh jesus what did I just do...*relgion comes back*
Epp!
Em
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Emuh: Yeah I'm not sure when I'm comming home...
Mother dearest: Were's your bible?
E: Why?
MD: Well I want you to come to church with me on Christmas day..
E: Mum you KNOW I don't do the church thing...I'm just not into it...
MD: Well I think you're being stupid...you were always a relgious girl...this is all just pathetic!
E: MOTHER I AM NOT GONNA CHANGE MY VEIWS ON GOD!
MD: WHY NOT!
E: BECAUSE I'M GAY!!!! *slams down phone*
E: Oh jesus...oh God...Oh jesus what did I just do...*relgion comes back*
Epp!
Em
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